Shift Your Perspective: Focus On What You Can Control

Everyone always thinks about what they can’t control, thinking like this could be a problem. Shift your perspective by thinking about what is in your control. 

People are constantly worrying about what they don’t have in life. They get so busy thinking about what they can’t control that they forget about what is within their control. There are certain things that can be controlled, and those things can change your life drastically. 

Everyone can agree that they want to enjoy life and achieve things. But their focus is only on what they can’t control. Like they feel sad because of how others treat them, or because they can’t control their mind and get into overthinking, etc. But there is a mantra for living a happy life: “Think about the things in your control, and make the most of them to live a happy life”. Yes, there are certain things you can control, and those can change your life. They can be the smallest things, but it is about perspective. These things can make a big difference in your life and can make you happier. 

Here is a list of things that can change your life. 

How you  speak to yourself

In simple words, it is called “self-talk”, it can change your perspective on life. In the morning, if you wake up by saying, “You will be the happiest,” then your day can actually turn into a happy day. Always engage yourself in positive self-talk because it is in your control. Moreover, it gives you a reason to smile.

How quickly you try again after a fall

It is in your control in how much time you’re ready for your next step. It shows your willingness to get back up and push yourself to reach your goals. So, think more about your next steps rather than thinking about you’ve failed. 

How many risks you take

The number of risks you want to take is in your control. By taking risks, you achieve new things and new milestones. Take as many risks as you can and make the most of the opportunity you have.  

When you ask for help

People feel ashamed to ask for help, but there is nothing wrong in taking anyone’s help. Sometimes, because of the help, your task can be easier and completed in less time. It is in your control whose help you’re taking. Be mindful of that rather than being ashamed of the same thing. 

How often you think about your past

Someone suffers from depression, anxiety, etc. because they think too much about their past. You can save yourself from these troubles by either not thinking or thinking less about it. It is in your control to save yourself, so try it out and protect yourself.

Who you follow on social media

Social media is addictive and affects your mind the most. For instance, if you follow someone who posts negative content, you may feel the same. If you follow someone who boasts about their wealth or perfect body, your self-esteem may be affected. But it is in your control who you are following. So be mindful of it and protect yourself. 

Level of honesty.

Be honest with yourself and accept your strengths and weaknesses. You have got to learn to accept your mistake honestly. Praise yourself if you did a good thing. It is totally in your control, so be happy, praise, and criticise yourself. Because whatever comes from you will be true rather than others’ opinions. 

What books you read

Books impact your mind and life in a big way. They can make you smarter, cleverer, and happier. And can also impact your mind with negativity, too. Read books that are good for your mental health and growth. If it is in your control, then do something that contributes to your well-being.

Your mindset

It plays an important role in how you look at life, and the good thing is that it is in your control. Try to always have a positive mindset towards life. You can’t control others’ mindsets or what they say. But you can control your mindset and way of looking at things. So, change your mindset towards positivity and make your life enjoyable slowly. 

How you treat others

There is a saying that if you do good to others, good things will happen to you. And it is in your control how you treat others. Then why not treat others in the best way possible? You can’t control how other people treat you, but you can control how you treat others. So, eventually, you are contributing to your happiness. Try to help others selflessly and be a person with a nice heart.

It is human nature to think about what isn’t in your control and what you don’t have in life. But now is the time to change your perspective and think about what you can control. It can be a hard thing, but it can also change your life and make you happy. You can try these 10 things and can see the change in yourself. If you feel like it has changed your life, you can share it with others. Sharing good things with others also gives you happiness.